Friday, June 03, 2005
eating my breakfast... ... Yesterday. went for this seminar "love actually" with Shirley, Gideon, Shuzhen and
Daniel Chia teaching. (filled in the details later><) then for NED
barbeque at Faith's
house. we started the fire at 8 plus.. that's very late. Everyone was entertained by Faith. with her craziness and lameness. Thanks Dehui for being there when I'm discourage. haha. well. let's
talk about:
Puppy Love VS.
True LoveDo we know what
true love is? or is it puppy love?- wrong understanding of love.
Characteristics of puppy love.
1. Infatuations-foolish, unreasoning,etc..
-It diverts our attention from God.
-It is most founded on illusion.
resolve not to FIX on attraction.
2. Lovesick and impatient.
When you want to rush into it, it is not love. it is lust. If you really love that person, you can wait. wait for the perfect time God has plan.
3. Pretending.
How long can you pretend? U pretend because you just want that to like you? well. it won't last. Guard your motive. why are you doing what you are doing? is it you want to impress that person?
4. Emotional manipulation.
When you love the person in a biblical way, you won't have all these.
5. Scheming.
sorries. no offence. I hate this group of ppl!
6. Unreasonable.
7. Selfish.
When a
relationship is self-seeking. It won't last.
8. Stubborness.
9. Fickled-minded.
10. Irresponsible.
lack the essence of commitment.
True Love!!!
Myths about
true love.
Myth 1.
True Love must satisfy me.
That's so selfish. Love is not self-seeking. Ya.. You must look for the right person. But you must be the right person too!
Myth 2.
True Love is a feeling.
Feeling is real but it lead us to the wrong directions. We should based on the truth!
Myth 3.
True Love is based on outward qualities.
in this way. you won't see anymore old couples. take delight in what God delights in! The heart. Godly character.
Myth 4. For
True Love anything, anything goes.
Myth 5.
True Love is independent.
Is inclusive. Include ya
family, friends and shepherd...
Myth 6.
True Love makes me secure and gives me identity.
We find ourselves in God. Our identity is found in God.
Myth 7.
True Love means being alike.
Nonsense.
So What is
True Love? in John 3:16
1.
True Love is God's love.God's love must be the base and foundation of all
relationship! If the person doesn't love God that is so perfect, how could he love you that is imperfect?
2.
True Love is not selfish.
Heyy.. if you really think you love that
brother. don be selfish and pull him away from God.
3.
True Love is giving.
Relationship is giving not receiving. People only want to fulfill their own needs.
4.
True Love involves absolute trust.Because God is in the picture. We can be secure.
18There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.5.
True Love is a commitment.
Without commitment, it won't last. Commitment is an anti-culture thing. But we be commited to each other because of God. We are commited to God because he first commit to us:)
Heyy... we should really trust God that he has the best plan for us. He knew best. when we serve and gives him everything. He won't shortchange us. Wait for God's timing. The perfect timing is God timing!
33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
yupp...
anw. going for the sexology le. I'm underage. but my shepherd ask me go. so will fill in e detail tonight:)